A Test on Abuse

If you are in a relationship and are worried that it may be abusive, the below will help you check the status of your relationship. For those not in a relationship, look at the criteria below and see if you’ve experienced any of these with a past relationship or maybe even with a friend.

If you find yourself mentally checking some of these behaviours, know that we’re here to talk about it with you.
Has your partner:

  • Called you names insulted you or continually criticized you?
  • Not trusted you and acted jealous or possessive?
  • Attempted to isolate you from family or friends?
  • Monitored where you go, who you call and who you spend time with?
  • Not wanted you to work?
  • Controlled finances or refused to share money?
  • Punished you by withholding affection?
  • Expected you to ask permission?
  • Threatened to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets?
  • Humiliated you in any way?

If so, you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship.

Has your partner ever?

  • Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.)?
  • Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you?
  • Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place?
  • Scared you by driving recklessly?
  • Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you?
  • Forced you to leave your home?
  • Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving?
  • Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention?
  • Used physical force in sexual situations?

If so, you may be in a physically abusive relationship.

Would you say your partner:

  • Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles?
  • Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships?
  • Wants you to dress in a sexual way?
  • Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names?
  • Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts?
  • Held you down during sex?
  • Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you?
  • Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex?
  • Involved other people in sexual activities with you?
  • Ignored your feelings regarding sex?

If so, you may be in a sexually abusive relationship.

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